My man of 3 yrs has a dvd player in his work vehicle w/ about 20 porn....

ss13

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...This can't b normal? We're engaged 2 b married, and we are not kids . I'm average height and average weight. I offer him all sorts of kinky sex play without EVER might I add saying no to him. I initiate, I accept, I take, allow to b taken. I'm average height and am in good shape.(5'4, around 120 lbs) I'm 30 but look 20, and this is really getting to me. He prefers himself and this porn over me. He has trouble getting it up half the time with me unless there is porn on, and this hurts me terribly. I don't mind the porn, but he lies about it, even if I haven't asked. I've fallen deeply in love with this man over the years, and I do know that he loves me. This isn't the first time he's been confronted, I'd just like a classy few simple lines that leave me some dignity when I leave him (finally) in the morning. I have a child (although not his he has helped in raising her) and I don't want to end this on bad terms. I'm a very sad mom who needs serious help, fast if one can help it. Thank you in advance.
That's the problem. I've suggested help. And he's always too tired for sex. Yet I still catch him at 3 in the morning with himself. I've offered him everything, and no, though he says he's attracted to me, why can't he get it up without porn anymore? He sexually ignores me, but accuses me constantly of doing sexually explicit things that I would only perform with him. I'd just like a dignified way of leaving. This isn't an easy thing for me to do.
I do watch it with him. I even go shopping with him for it. I've tried sexual things with him I never even dreamed imaginable. I use all the toys he asks me to use, and I don't mind watching porn while we're doing the deed, as long as he makes love to me OCCASIONALLY. And shouldn't the oral be somewhat recipricated? On average, he gets about 5-7 BJs a week. He has fettish with obscenely huge tits. Mine are an average 34C. He would like for me to get a breast implant. I'd even do this, if I thought it would help, but somehow I think he'd want me to get an ass implant next...
 

DJ MARKY MARXX

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well as for me sometimes, when I am withsome one we put a dvd on, it kinda helps in a way because u both can learn new moves or something, now the part that he perfers the porn over you i would question, try to ask him whats wrong why does he perfer his porn over you? dont be afraid. ASK
 

jsfnita

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Yes it's normal. It shows he has a high sex drive, I don't know what it means to you but not every guy has that. You can ask him to stop out of respect if it is what you really want. I do suggest you watching it together sometimes because it helps set the mood. Do not let this end your relationship. Porn is really not that taboo anymore and he probably doesn't realize the harm it is causing.
 
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days_o_work

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It is not normal at all. Most people have 30 dvds or more.
 
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